I don’t know if some of you have been to these live reads at LACMA, where a classic film is read live on stage by actors who just sit and read the script. We did one recently of American Pie, but we reversed the gender roles. All the women played men; all the men played women. And it was so fascinating to be a part of this because, as the women took on these central roles — they had all the good lines, they had all the good laughs, all the great moments — the men who joined us to sit on stage started squirming rather uncomfortably and got really bored because they weren’t used to being the supporting cast.
It was fascinating to feel their discomfort [and] to discuss it with them afterward, when they said, “It’s boring to play the girl role!” And I said, “Yeah. Yeah. You think? Welcome to our world!
”——Olivia Wilde crushing it when she talks about women in Hollywood. (via leanin)
“There is no coming to consciousness without pain. People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own soul. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.”—Carl Jung (via psych-facts)
try to wake up happy. drink water. take long showers until your skin gets wrinkled. wear cute underwear. look at old pictures to see how much you’ve grown. grow your hair out. cut your hair off. find a perfume that smells how summer feels. if scales are your enemy, get rid of them. make your body strong, not perfect. challenge yourself to say three nice things about yourself each day. don’t compare yourself to others—they are not you. they will never be you. get rid of magazines that make you feel bad.
learn to love spending time with yourself. take yourself out to dinner. take yourself to the movies. take yourself to a museum and look at the pieces without having to stick to anyone’s schedule but your own. wear clothes you love. wear colors. smile at strangers. they will smile back. make small talk. don’t worry if people think you’re weird for asking the cashier how their day is going. give compliments. learn how to accept a compliment. organize your closet. get rid of clothes that remind you of negative points in your life. get rid of things that remind you of negative people in your life.
walk more. read more. sit outside more. feel the sun on your shoulders more. take pictures. you have a beautiful life. you have a beautiful soul. document it. make sure you are in the pictures. sing in public. realize that you see hundreds of faces every day and of those faces, approximately none of them will remember that you tripped walking up the stairs this morning. forgive yourself. even confident people get embarrassed. everyone gets embarrassed.
remember that no one ever knows exactly who they are. it is okay to feel lost. it is okay to feel confused. it is not okay to berate yourself for feeling that way.
“I was by myself for a pretty long time. I needed to do that. I think everyone that I know has wanted to do that or needed to do that at some point. I think when you spend enough time when it’s quiet around you and you don’t open your mouth for three or four days, there’s parts of your brain that can kind of rest. I think when we’re out in the world and we have to talk to people, we edit ourselves. You know, we have to like, act a little bit. As honest as we may be as humans, when we’re out here, we’re all kind of wearing mirrors on our faces. You know, constantly reacting to how to react to the people around you. And I think when you’re alone for a long enough time, you can feel a lot more peace.”—
-Justin Vernon of Bon Iver, in an interview speaking about living in his father’s cabin for three months when writing ‘For Emma, Forever Ago’
But I guess ultimately what scares me about marriage is where do you find this person? You know a lot of times, most successful relationships, people meet through work, school, mutual friends. But what’s most interesting to me is when people just meet in life, just randomly. You know, I have a friend, he got married, I asked him like “Hey, uh, where’d you meet your wife?” He was like “I was leaving Bed, Bath & Beyond. I was looking for my car - I drive a gray Prius. I saw a different gray Prius, I thought it was mine, I walked up to it, I realized I had the wrong car, but I bumped into Carol, we started talking, that was that”. That’s unbelievable. Think about all the random factors that had to come together to make this one moment possible - this one moment that changed these two people’s entire lives: First off, this guy has to live in this particular town. Then he has to get a gray Prius. Then he has to need to go to Bed, Bath & Beyond. Then he has to go to that particular Bed, Bath & Beyond. Then there has to be another guy who also lives in town, also drives a gray Prius, also needs to go to Bed, Bath & Beyond, also goes to that particular Bed, Bath & Beyond at around the same time. Then they have to both park somewhat near each other, my friend has to leave before the other guy leaves, see the wrong Prius, think it’s his, walk up to it. Then the woman, Carol, needs to be near the wrong gray Prius for a million other random reasons. They bump into each other, they start talking, their entire lives are changed. That’s the most amazing and terrifying thing about life. It is, cause the amazing thing is that at any moment, any one of us can have that moment that totally changes our lives. You could be leaving the show tonight, bump into someone… it could change your life. You don’t know, that could happen. The terrifying thing is… what if we’re all supposed to be at Bed Bath & Beyond right now?